Relationship with your partner during pregnancy: stay connected

Why paying attention to your relationship is important

Pregnancy is a wonderful, but also an intense period that can change your relationship. You are on your way to parenthood together, and that brings both joy and new challenges. Your relationship changes not only practically, but also emotionally. That is why it is important to continue to give each other conscious attention during this special period, so that your bond remains strong and you can grow together into parenthood.

Recognising changes in your relationship

During your pregnancy you may notice that things are changing between you and your partner. Hormonal fluctuations can make you more emotional or sensitive, and you may react differently to things than you are used to. Your partner may also experience changes; for example, worries about finances, the future, or uncertainty about what parenthood will be like. It is normal for both of you to need time to adjust to this new phase. By talking openly and honestly with each other, you will gain a better understanding of each other's feelings and needs.

Communication as the key to connection

Good communication is essential during your pregnancy. Regularly express what you are thinking and feeling, even if you are feeling insecure, afraid or very happy. By continuing to talk to each other, you prevent misunderstandings and feel connected to each other. Ask each other questions, show understanding and listen attentively. When you consciously take time to talk to each other, you ensure trust and intimacy in your relationship, making it easier to get through this special period together.

Time and attention for each other

During your pregnancy, everything often revolves around your child. Although it is important to prepare together, it is also valuable to continue to give each other time and attention. Make time for moments when you do something together without talking about the pregnancy. For example, go for a walk, eat out or watch a film together. This will keep your relationship strong and you will remain connected as partners, not just as parents-to-be. These moments of relaxation will give you energy and strengthen your bond.

Intimacy and physical closeness

Your pregnancy can affect the intimacy between you. Perhaps you feel extra connected, or you have less need for physical intimacy due to fatigue or pregnancy ailments. That is completely normal. Talk openly about this and look for ways of being intimate that feel good for both of you. This could include cuddling, giving massages or just relaxing together on the sofa. By showing understanding and patience for each other, you strengthen your emotional bond, even if your sexual intimacy is temporarily different.

Preparing for the arrival of your child together

Preparing for the arrival of your child together can bring you closer as partners. By making choices together, such as decorating the baby's room, choosing baby equipment or attending a pregnancy course, you will truly experience parenthood as a joint venture. Involving your partner in appointments with the midwife or ultrasounds also helps to make the pregnancy more concrete for your partner. This way, you both feel a strong bond with your child and with each other.

How to deal with tension or conflict?

All the changes can sometimes cause tension in your relationship. Irritation or differences of opinion are very normal, but it is important not to bottle them up. Try to resolve conflicts calmly and respectfully, even when emotions run high. Give each other space and understanding and always try to focus on solutions. If you cannot resolve the issue yourselves, do not hesitate to seek help, for example from a coach, a relationship therapist, or by talking to someone you both trust. This will prevent tensions from building up and you can emerge stronger from difficult situations together.

Your pregnancy is not only the beginning of your parenthood, but also an opportunity to make your relationship even stronger. Continue to consciously invest in each other so that you can face this wonderful new phase of your life together with trust and love.